The novelist and priest, who had experiences to leave home after forbidden love before becoming a priest in her 50's, says that you can have consideration for others if you fall in love many times and you are hurt many times. I heard a similar phrase from a music teacher. "One stage than 100 lessons." Both means that risking your life makes you broad-minded, I guess. From "Japanese Women's Real Power" by Ako Shirae.
October 4, 2016
from “Oriori no Kotoba” by Kiyokazu Washida, The Asahi Shimbun